At that time, I owned a small restaurant and worked very hard to keep it running.
He was unemployed then, so I often gave him pocket money and supported him both emotionally and financially. When his small jobs stopped coming and things became really tough for him, we agreed that he should move in with me until he got back on his feet.
Later, he got a job at a poultry farm and earned about ₦40,000 a month. Not long after that, I became pregnant. Instead of being supportive, he became very upset and acted as if the situation had nothing to do with him. He said he didn’t have money and kept insisting that I shouldn’t keep the pregnancy. He stopped talking to me and treated me badly, and in order to keep peace, I eventually gave in.
About a year later, I gave him ₦900,000 to add to his savings so he could start a slippers business. The business did well, and he later moved into his own place. After about two years, his business grew even more, but his behavior towards me changed. He started avoiding me and always claimed to be “busy.”
I was shocked when I found out he had gone back to his ex-girlfriend—the same woman who had left him when he had no money. At that time, I was pregnant again. Once more, he asked me not to keep the pregnancy. He later told me that his ex-girlfriend was also pregnant for him and that he loved her and would not marry me. He walked away from us, saying it was “for my own good.”
This time, I chose to keep my pregnancy. I focused on myself and later gave birth to my son. For two years, he never checked on us and even changed his phone numbers. I minded my business and eventually met my fiancé—a kind and loving man who has been very supportive of both me and my child. We are now engaged and planning to get married this February.
After two years, my child’s father suddenly came back, asking for forgiveness. I tried to tell him to leave us alone, but he keeps returning and sending friends to beg on his behalf. He even involved his family, and now I’m under a lot of pressure—especially from his mother, who calls me crying and pleading for her son. I honestly feel sorry for her because she was always good to me.
Right now, I feel very confused and overwhelmed. I stood by him when he had nothing. Now that his business is struggling and things are no longer going well for him, he wants to return to our lives. His family has invited me to a family meeting this Sunday. My fiancé doesn’t know about any of this yet, and I’m carrying so much in my heart. I truly feel lost.